You’re allowing yourself to experience what it’s like to live life without him – and letting yourself gain a little bit of distance and perspective on the relationship.
If there were a better way to gain perspective on the relationship and start to heal (so that you can have a much easier time getting your ex back later on) – this article would be telling you that way.
No emails, no texts, no late night dial and hang-ups, no drive-by’s, no contacting by proxy (via friends or family), no Facebook or Favorite Place stalking, no leaving notes on his/her car or apartment door, no sending letters……NO NOTHING. It will be hard because after a break-up you want closure.
You want to be heard, you want them to know the pain they’ve caused- but they are never going to listen, and even if they do, they don’t understand the meaning. If he/she calls me, I will hang up immediately, or not answer the phone at all.
This allows them to heal their emotions, anger and hurt.
Because of the time apart, they have enough time to think about their relationship and realize how much they miss each other and how much they still love one another.
Therefore, they decided to get back together and work on the relationship again.
But when you follow the no contact rule, you become stronger, healthier, and have a better perspective – so that when you do start talking to your ex again you won’t come off as needy.
As it stands, the no contact rule is the best way to heal and make yourself stronger after a breakup.
There’s no wiggle room – either you’re following it or you’re not – which makes it the best possible option.
And on the other hand, we still want to stay in touch with the same person that broke our heart and walked all over it!
On one hand, we’re hurting because we’ve lost a big piece of our heart to someone else.